Wednesday, October 03, 2007

Riddle me this mateys...

There's a conflict afoot in the pirates house. An ill wind blows, tempers be flared, and your captain has been declared not fit to be his Babygirls father - by his Babygirl, there seems to be a mutiny afoot.

So, here be the question for ye - iffin ya had a 15 year old daughter, would ye lets her date a 22 year old fella? Take your time, think it over, don't go answerin that one too quickly. Apparently I did.

And, whether you would or wouldn't, how would ya feel iffin she lied as to her whereabouts and spent the night at said 22 year olds house? Again, take your time, think about it. If it makes a difference, he has his own place.

No, Billy hasn't killed anyone yet, YET. Surprising, huh? It's still remains very much a possiblity, although jail for him looks more likely than jail for me. Currently though it looks as if I have lost a daughter; hopefully "you're not my fucking father" were the words of a brokenhearted teenage girl and not something she plans on holding onto forever. Cuz that broke my heart, really. I've heard "I hate you!" before, that was nothing. This was spoken with equal parts contempt, hate and disgust with eyes as cold as I've ever seen.

So, what will it be folks, who thinks I should let her date a 22 year old? Can't wait for a little input on this one. And if you can't imagine having a 15 year old daughter, how would you feel if your 22 year old son brought home his 15 year old girlfriend for dinner? Is the pirate out of touch with the youth of today or just being a good Daddy?

16 Comments:

Blogger Evening said...

Man Billy, you are going to have to stand strong to get around this one.
First of all, I see the not wanting to let her see him. But, she already has, and snuck around to do it? How can you control that? Can you? Can you watch her every minute? I think the more you say no the more appealing he is.
I have sons that are in their twenties and I can not see them dating a 15 year old girl. I think if I was you, I would talk to him. I said TALK. No matter how badly you want to pulverize him, just talk. Ask him why he wants to see your daughter. I am sure she is beautiful and fun and wonderful but so are some girls over the age of 18. Remind him that there are legal consqences to seeing a minor. And let him know you are not afraid to press charges.
Just a little motivation for you to stand strong...at 15 I dated an older boy (a young man), I ended up pregnant.
Fifteen year old girls say some awful things, they don't mean them. She will love you always, she just hates you today.
Good luck.
xo

10:30 AM  
Blogger April said...

ummm...let her? Not just no, but HELL NO.

But as the previous poster said, the more you try and stop her, the more she'll probably sneak around and do it. I would just talk to both of them and let them know your concerns. I think that's really all you can do at this point.

5:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with april...HELL NO!!! You won't be able to get her to agree not to see him because girls her age want what they want when they want it. He is 22 and should have a better grasp of the consequences of dating a minor. It's not like your daughter is turning 18 in a few months and you can look the other way..she is 15 years old for christ sake!! Can anyone say jail bait? I would let this guy know you have the law on your side and you are not afraid to use it. Hang in there Billy this to shall pass.

5:28 PM  
Blogger Green Eyes said...

Tough one, Billy, I'm sorry.

No, she didn't mean it, I promise.

You're a great father and you know where to find me if you need me.

9:33 PM  
Blogger CP said...

Babe, you have all the right in the world to be concerned. What the fuck does a 22 year old have to do with a 15 year old? However, kids are going to do what they want to do no matter what.

Do what I would do...

Call the cops and let them handle the fucker.

She loves you, man. Don't sweat that. You're just being dad and if she didn't say shit like that to you now and then, you were doing something WRONG.

Love to you, babe.

10:46 PM  
Anonymous in.harvey said...

You are her father, not her best friend...You have the right to say "no", and don't say no unless you mean it. When your daughter gets to be, let's say about 21 or so, you will be the smartest dad around. Hang in there!!

7:02 AM  
Blogger Karl said...

Good Morning Billy,

You not only have the right, but the responsibility to stop it. A 22 year old that's after a 15 year old, definitely has some personal issues and you'll have to deal with them sooner or later.

If you can stop it by talking to them great, if not use the law.

9:44 AM  
Blogger erika said...

Ohh hell to the NO! You are a good Dad. Teenagers just don't like parents until they are in their 20's. Talk to the 22 year old find out why. If anything you can but the fear of God into him.

5:24 PM  
Anonymous in.harvey said...

There are two rules about raising kids...Don't say no, unless you mean "NO", and don't say it's time to go unless it's time to go. Obviously, there is a lot more than that... but, One parent gets to be the bad person, and the other gets to be the backup buffer. You don't need to scream and yell because they can hear you whisper. I know it hurts, but we are talking long term here... Do not give negative reinforcement..

7:36 PM  
Blogger tkkerouac said...

My daughter did this also
when he wouldn't back off
I actually phoned his father
yes
to tell on him
it humilated him out of the scene.
yes my daugher was upset for awhile
but 15, comon,
Jailbait.

10:05 PM  
Blogger Evening said...

Just checking in. Wanted you to know you have support.
xo

10:17 AM  
Blogger Bite Me said...

I didn't read any of the other comments, but I'd keel hull the f'ing bastard! I have two daughters, they're too young to date right now, but I'm working out so I look very scary when they do. When she's 30 and he's 37, then I don't see a problem, but until then...................

1:03 AM  
Blogger Still Searching... said...

Ooo nellie! That's an icky one.

You ARE being a good Daddy. I remember being 15 very well (yes, I was once) and I dated 22 year old boys/men. NOT a good idea. I learned that one the hard way. While I didn't get pregnant as a previous commentor, it was just BAD all around.

My Daddy forbid me to see one of them, probably the worst, and I did sneak around for a little while. BUT...eventually I saw that he was right. I wouldn't admit it, I was only 15 after all, but I knew he was. And I still loved him, loved him even more when I finally woke up and really saw what my future was going to be. She will too. Really.

5:44 AM  
Blogger Still Searching... said...

Oh, and p.s....

I agree that talking with him and letting him know that you are not averse to pressing charges is a good idea. Just keep in mind, he can probably hear you better if your hands aren't around his throat.

Just sayin'.

5:46 AM  
Blogger ATLLG said...

Uh HELLO I don't think so. Someone is lucky they aren't my daughter's EX-BF and sitting their ass in JAIL right now. Sorry but the dude is playing in the WRONG ballpark. I'm just letting loose on this one cause I do have one that old as well. And while I know things are different the law hasn't changed and 22 year old guys better remember that. Communications is the key. And I'm sure talking is really not what you wanna do but you must. With all parties. And if you can't talk to him, all I need is an address. Dads must stick together.

1:12 PM  
Blogger Charlie said...

Absolutely not. Kids should be kids and they're just growing up way too fast as it is. 22 and 15? i dont think so. And no..she didnt mean it. Hormones, angst and 'lifes so unfair!' is a teenage thing...we've all been there and we all grow out of it.

5:51 AM  

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